Questions to Ask Before Popping the Question

Well, it’s official. Tim Tebow, 32, and Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters, 24, were married on January 20, 2020. The couple, who became engaged in January 2019, met in 2018 at Tim’s annual Night to Shine event, which is a “worldwide prom for people with special needs.” (Demi-Leigh’s younger sister Franje, who sadly passed away last May, was born with special needs.)

The former NFL quarterback-turned-professional-baseball-player told People magazine, “I’ve been waiting my entire life for someone special, who I can spend the rest of my life with. I was waiting for the right person to come along. And now I’m marrying Demi. I can’t wait to see what our future holds. All of my dreams have come true. It was 100 percent worth the wait.”

Tim, a devout Christian who vowed to stay abstinent until marriage (based on Hebrews 13:4), detailed how the couple kept that promise. “It’s just a choice that we made that we both wanted to do that together, and just try to make it as special as possible,” he said. People used to give Tim a hard time about his celibacy and looking for the right person, but his patience seems to have paid off. Demi-Leigh, a South African model who was crowned Miss Universe 2017, admitted, “We’re both very traditional.”

In Search of Mr. or Mrs. Right

Choosing a life partner is a serious commitment; it’s not like an impulse purchase at the mall that you can take back later. Do you think you’ve found Mr. or Mrs. Right? Maybe you are already thinking of getting engaged. Or perhaps Valentine’s Day will put you in a romantic mood. But how can you be certain you’re making the right decision?

You may think that you and your betrothed have talked about everything. But many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. As with many things in life, a little effort up front can go a long way toward determining your happiness and success in the long run. For one thing, a lack of communication leads to many problems and misunderstandings that could have been prevented.

Have you discussed all of the factors that will make your marriage work, and that will enable you to live happily-ever-after? It’s often the everyday stuff that becomes the most frustrating when a husband and wife have different expectations. It would be better to figure this out sooner rather than later (after it becomes a point of contention). For example, financial matters are extremely important – and money issues are one of the leading causes of divorce.

Make a List

It can help to make a list of what you’re looking for in a mate; for example:

  • Good sense of humor.
  • Strong faith and morals.
  • Confidence, independence, not jealous/controlling/insecure.
  • Great communicator, very transparent and open.
  • Has a good work ethic, ambition and goals.
  • Well-educated with desire to always learn and grow.
  • Has a big heart, knows how to love and serve others.
  • Strong family values, wants a family.
  • No baggage – no prior marriages or kids.
  • Likes to have fun!

Questions to Ask

We’ve compiled an e-book of key questions that should be considered by couples who are engaged, courting, or seriously dating. This is not meant to be an all-inclusive checklist – and there aren’t necessarily any “right” or “wrong” answers. But do keep these questions in mind to fit into the conversation as related topics come up. Some of them you can answer just by observing, and you probably already know the answers to others. Good for you, because that means the two of you have a close relationship!

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Just so you know, we worked really hard to compile this e-book. Hopefully we’ve thought of everything. But if you can think of a good question that we didn’t include, please tell us what it is in the comment section below. We’d love to add a list of questions submitted by readers!

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  1. What charities and organizations do you support? If she’s a PETA person, and he’s an NRA member with a subscription to “American Hunter” magazine, I don’t think it’s going to work out very well.

    1. LOL, great question, thanks!

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