Advice Paradise: Right and Wrong, Trash Talk, and More

“It’s a jungle out there. Disorder and confusion everywhere. No one seems to care.” Well, WE do! That’s why we started this new column… Advice Paradise!


We’re not psychologists, counselors, therapists, or experts – we’re just fellow homeschoolers who are willing to offer a little friendly advice. Sometimes it helps to have a second opinion, and we’re here for you. The Advice Paradise team will answer questions on homeschooling, relationships, religion, and life in general. No question is too trivial. Just ask about anything you want to know! We promise to keep it simple and get straight to the point.

Check out the following questions and see if any of them apply to you, or maybe you’ve been in the same situation and have some helpful advice to give someone else. Post a comment if you think you have a better answer!

1. Is it okay for my friend to call me fat?
It’s difficult to answer this question without knowing either of you. Is the friend true? Does he intend to hurt? Is he insensitive with no bad intentions? Is he genuinely concerned about you? Or is it just friendly trash talk? Here is an example of trash talk:

Trash talker 1: “Boy you look ugly, how do you even get that ugly?”

Trash talker 2: “I work hard at it in the mirror every morning; it doesn’t come natural like it does for you.”

2. If Ben Shapiro is Jewish, why do some people call him a Nazi?
They do not like what he says, so they insult him to try and shut him up. They don’t want anyone to hear what he has to say, so they shout nonsense to drown out his words.

3. How do I know who is right and who is wrong when both sides make sense? Is there right and wrong or does that depend on people’s way of thinking, situation, beliefs, ideology, etc.?
We can easily confuse opinions and beliefs with facts. Opinions can be swayed by emotion; beliefs can be mistaken; facts are real and true. All of our observations must pass through our minds and are influenced by what we have thought before, and what other people have told us. People who are experts and on the top of their fields have made terrible blunders in their interpretation of observations that have had catastrophic consequences. Do your best to listen carefully, suspend judgment as long as you can, then decide for yourself what is right based on the evidence at hand. Some things are really right and not dependent on time or place or circumstance.

4. Why do Christians like being Christians?
It is the joy. Once in a while we may meet a stranger, another Christian from a far away place, and we are family. It is the joy.

Do you have a question? Send it to and we will share it with the Advice Paradise team to be posted in the next issue of Homeschooling Teen.

Would you like to answer a question or offer some advice? Please leave a comment below with the question number for reference. Thanks for helping!

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