“It’s a jungle out there. Disorder and confusion everywhere. No one seems to care.” Well, WE do! That’s why we started this column… Advice Paradise!
We’re not psychologists, counselors, therapists, or experts – we’re just fellow homeschoolers who are willing to offer a little friendly advice. Sometimes it helps to have a second opinion, and we’re here for you. The Advice Paradise team will answer questions on homeschooling, relationships, religion, and life in general. No question is too trivial. Just ask about anything you want to know! We promise to keep it simple and get straight to the point.
Check out the following questions and see if any of them apply to you, or maybe you’ve been in the same situation and have some helpful advice to give someone else. Post a comment if you think you have a better answer!
1. My mom constantly loses her temper at me and screams horrible things to me. I feel that she doesn’t love me anymore. How do I stop feeling like this?
If she is a good person (mostly) and nothing is (seriously) wrong with her, perhaps she is stressed out. The following might help a little. Do more than your fair share of work around the house, cooking, washing dishes, doing laundry, picking up, sweeping, vacuuming, etc. Honor your mother. Hug her. Tell her you love her. Do not expect anything in return. Never play the martyr. Hopefully she will notice what you are doing and appreciate it. Good luck.
2. My boyfriend is really horrible to me, but I can’t leave the relationship. What should I do?
Is the reason you cannot leave because you have feelings of worthlessness? If so, he is gaslighting you (manipulating you psychologically). Take stock of your resources. Surround yourself with strong good friends and family. Make sure you are safe. A person that deserves your love should speak kindly to you, be there for you when you are in need, and never do anything that would be considered abusive. He should be taking care for your feelings, not being one that troubles you. Best wishes.
3. Why do some people love having constant drama in their lives?
It may look like they love the drama, but deep down I don’t think it is anything they really enjoy. Some people are just wired for more extreme emotions. It may be like an adrenaline rush, a way to feel alive. If they seem to be doing it on purpose, it may be a means to get attention or gain sympathy. If they overreact to every little thing, perhaps they are feeling overwhelmed by daily life or distressed about something of which you are not aware. I hope you can help them.
Do you have a question? Send it to firstname.lastname@example.org and we will share it with the Advice Paradise team to be posted in the next issue of Homeschooling Teen.
Would you like to answer a question or offer some advice? Please leave a comment below with the question number for reference. Thanks for helping!